The "Ideal" Man

What makes the ideal man? It is a question that has long perplexed and intrigued men, as they desperately seek the answers to be the best version of themselves. Or to appeal to a partner, job and so on. After all, we are ruled by our desires of success and happiness, whether this comes from financial, relationship, or power gain. We want to appeal, and we want to be liked, this is basic human nature at its very core.

It is also something that has long consumed many men, as they try to conform to societies misinterpretation of the perfect man, in an act of simply trying to fit in.

But as you can see from the video above, there is no predefined answer. For every man interprets it differently, and while society has certainly tried to outline a certain mould over the years. The braces are finally breaking, and more and more men are starting to realise, that being an ideal man, is ultimately down to what you wish to be.

Take the following examples, as typically they have always been seen as some of the stereotypical expectations, characteristics and responsibilities of the “Ideal Man”, throughout our society.

Men should be good at DIY

Men should be able to fight and be tough

Men should look smart and professional

Men should be financially successful in order to achieve and provide for their family

Men should strive to be a leader and the alpha male

Men should be competitive and into sport

Having such stereotypes can be extremely harmful for men, as the NHS explains:

"The key point is the idea of masculinity and the perception of what a man should be. When a person fails to fit the criteria they are considered ‘unmanly’ and admonished for it.

By taking this opportunity to raise awareness and promote discussion it’s possible to start breaking down gender stereotypes, both male and female, in order to create a happier, less judgemental environment."

Luckily in many places such as Britain, the discussion is already ongoing, and the majority of these and other stereotypes are now a thing of the past.

However, across some countries in the world, particularly in the middle east. The examples above, along with many others, such as pre-defined gender roles and men being dominant and in charge. Are still a very common occurrence and way of life.

But back to Men in Britain, and in particular as to how younger men have chosen not to adopt these beliefs.

Now while equality pushes between men and women have helped to negate negative gender stereotypes, such as the man must be the breadwinner and provider for the family.

Younger men between the ages of 20 – 40, seem to be the main candidates for pushing back against the remaining vast majority of these harmful stereotypes.

One good example, is how many modern-day men take far better care of themselves in terms of grooming, and focusing on their looks, and appearance. Typically, this was always seen as feminine and something that “real men” wouldn’t do or care for. But nowadays, everything from male skin care to beauty products are available and often a part of the modern mans daily routine.

Whilst many of the stereotypes are negative or harmful in someway or form. It can also be argued that some are positive. This would be for some of the ones focusing on how men should act and treat others, with things such as respect and dignity coming to mind, or how men should be noble and honourable.

While it is important to remember that stereotypes can be harmful and certainly take away from people’s freedom to express and live how they wish. Ones that perpetuate basic manners, kindness and morality can perhaps be a little bit more excusable, in light of the fact that these should be guiding principles for not just men, but every person.